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T (A Child) [2005] EWCA Civ 311

Appeal against costs order in contact and residence dispute

Neutral Citation Number: [2005] EWCA Civ 311

Case No: B4/2004/2244

IN THE SUPREME COURT OF JUDICATURE

COURT OF APPEAL (CIVIL DIVISION)

ON APPEAL FROM MANCHESTER COUNTY COURT

HER HONOUR JUDGE KUSHNER QC

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Royal Courts of Justice

Strand, London, WC2A 2LL

Date: 21/03/2005

Before :

LORD JUSTICE POTTER

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LORD JUSTICE WALL

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T (A Child)

The Applicant appeared in person

The Respondent appeared in person

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Hearing date : 10th February 2005

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Judgment

Lord Justice Wall :

1. This is the judgment of the court.

Introduction

2. With permission granted by Black J at an oral hearing on 5 November 2004, Mrs. ST (the mother) appeals against an order made by Her Honour Judge Kushner QC sitting in the Manchester County Court on 9 June 2004. The judge ordered the mother to pay the costs incurred by her former husband Mr DT (the father) of four hearings in the proceedings between them relating to their son J, who was born on 5 November 1999. Those proceedings, which had begun as an application by the father for contact with J, concluded on 17 February 2004 with an order that J reside with him. The mother also sought permission to appeal against the residence order, but permission was refused by Black J at the oral hearing on 5 November 2004.

3. The four hearings for which the judge ordered the mother to pay the costs were those, which took place on 9 December 2002, 15 May and 21 August 2003, and 13 May 2004. The last of these was a discrete hearing in which the father sought orders for costs relating to the previous three hearings. The significance of the first three hearings will shortly become apparent.

4. Both the mother and the father appeared before us in person. For reasons which will become clear as this judgment progresses, that could not have been an easy experience for either of them. We were, however, impressed by the clarity of the arguments each addressed to us, and the courtesy which each extended to the other and to the court.

5. Any order for costs between parents in private law proceedings relating to their children is, as the judge recognised, unusual. It is, accordingly, necessary to set out the background facts. We do so by reference to the judge's various judgments.

The facts

6. The mother is 33 and the father 34. They married on 10 August 2001 after a number of years of cohabitation. The father is an information technologist: the mother is not in gainful employment, although she is currently at college and hopes to start her own business later in the year.

7. The mother has another child, A, who was born from another relationship on 13 January 1991. A does not appear to have seen very much of his natural father over the years, and the judge found that the father had treated A as his son for many years.

8. When the case came before her for the first time on 4 December 2002, the judge found that there had been a continuous dispute about contact by the father to both children since the parties' separation in March 2002. She referred to "various agreements and orders which all have faltered almost immediately". She added:

"The mother says that this has either been due to force of circumstances, such as illness, or due to the father's conduct; the father maintains it is part of a campaign conducted by the mother and assisted by the maternal grandmother to distance and in fact eradicate him from the lives of both boys.

In addition the mother maintains that the father is in breach of various undertakings made by him on 31 October 2002 relating to publishing material about these proceedings and the mother and maternal grandmother".

9. Convinced that any agreement between the parties relating to contact would founder sooner or later (probably sooner) the judge decided on 4 December 2002 that "a fact finding hearing was essential to lay various disputes to rest once and for all. Further directions could then be made and progress hopefully ensured." The judge then adjourned the case for five days: evidence was rapidly assembled, and the fact finding hearing duly took place on 9 December 2002.

10. Following the finding of fact hearing, the judge handed down a careful, clear and well-structured reserved judgment on 22 January 2003. Under the heading THE HISTORY, the judge made perceptive assessments of both parties. The mother she described as: -

".... an emotional woman who, when feeling vulnerable, has a tendency to misinterpret or magnify the actions of others in such a way that, unless they are unequivocally in her favour, she assumes are deliberately working against her. This is evident in the way she has approached contact and in particular the way she has dealt with the outside agencies which have been involved with the family along the way."

Of the father she said: -

"For his part (the father) inappropriately uses his professional skills when trying to deal with emotional and relationship difficulties. Graphic examples of this can be seen in the questionnaires he sent to A and in his outrageous recourse to the Internet when he ran into difficulties with contact. This demonstrates a certain ruthlessness in his personality, which can only partly be explained by the feelings of frustration he must have felt from time to time. I can accept the evidence that (the mother) felt beleaguered in the period between the beginning of 2002 and the separation when at the very least she was undermined by allegations by her husband that she was ill."

11. The judge then proceeded, with commendable clarity, to make findings of fact in relation to the issues raised by the mother against the father. She did so under a number of headings. These were (1) domestic violence; (2) inappropriate treatment of A; (3) events following the commencement of proceedings.

12. In relation to domestic violence, the judge found one incident in 1993 or 1994 established, which the father admitted, and in which he had inflicted a blow to the mother's leg. The judge also found in relation to this incident:

"One thing seems clear from the evidence, namely that it was a cause of shame to (the father) and (the mother) wore short skirts so that the bruise was visible to others in order to "rub (the father's) nose in it."

13. Whilst finding that the father's conduct in relation to two of the other four incidents alleged by the mother did not reflect well on him (in relation to two of them the father was drunk) the judge made clear findings that the incidents identified by the mother did not amount to domestic violence. Furthermore, there had been no physical violence since the marriage. The judge was thus clear that domestic violence did not feature as an issue relevant to contact. To the contrary, she found that:

"A consideration of the increasing importance of domestic violence to the mother's case is an example of the sure but steady magnification of an issue by her....... "

14. By December 2002, the judge found that "domestic violence was centre stage as the consideration for the contact centre according to the mother". She had written a letter of complaint about Pro Contact (the specialist Contact Centre in Manchester, which was facilitating contact) stating that the reason for using a contact centre in the first place, was domestic violence towards herself. The judge commented that there were other similar examples where "certain issues have gathered momentum in the mother's mind and which have affected her conduct and attitude to individuals and to the issue of contact."

15. The judge found that the father had "tried very hard to achieve contact with A after the separation". The mother had alleged that the father had behaved inappropriately towards A in a number of ways, including inappropriate physical chastisement. The judge made a finding that in the parents' household (where smacking of children was permitted) there may have been occasions when the father struck A harder than was necessary or desirable. However, the independent evidence, she found, demonstrated a healthy and affectionate relationship between the father and A, and nothing to suggest inappropriate chastisement or apprehension on the part of A in the father's company. The judge felt that "this is probably another example of isolated incidents being inflated out of proportion.

16. In the longest section of her judgment, under the heading EVENTS FOLLOWING THE COMMENCEMENT OF PROCEEDINGS, the judge traced the history of the litigation since its initiation by the father on 22 April 2002. It is, once again, a clear and very evenhanded account. She is critical of the mother for her failure to honour agreed contact arrangements. She understands the father's frustration, but is heavily critical of him for inappropriate questionnaires which he sent to A without the mother's knowledge with boxes to be ticked indicating how A felt about the father and contact with him. Her most severe criticism of him is contained in paragraph 6.9 of her judgment when she says: -

"I accept that the father must have been feeling an increasing sense of frustration as contact was thwarted time and time again and as the allegations started to flow. However, there is simply no excuse for correspondence of the type he sent to (the mother's) friends and even that pales into insignificance alongside the diatribe posted on the PAPAS web-site about the mother and the paternal grandmother, irrespective of truth."

17. The judge made a number of specific findings. Principal amongst them was her rejection of an allegation by the mother that whilst J had chicken pox, the father held him down and burst one or more blisters with a pin during contact. Since many of the mother's complaints derived from what she reported J as saying to her, it is significant, particularly in the light of subsequent events, that the judge commented on J's delayed speech and doubted his ability to convey information to the mother in the way she described. The judge accepted the evidence of Pro-Contact as to the warmth of the relationship between the father and J, and described the mother's attitude as:

".... so intent on her own perspective of events that she is at the very least selective in what she takes in, leading to a distorted perception of what is actually happening."

The judge also rejected the mother's allegation that J had made a number of inappropriate statements to her and the child minder either at the instigation of or due to comments made by the father. She also rejected an allegation that J had returned from contact visit with a wound under one earlobe, which did not heal until contact had stopped completely.

18. The judge had evidence from the manager of Pro Contact on the importance to J of contact with his father being maintained, and she saw videos of the beginnings of three contact sessions. On each occasion, J had rushed across the room to greet his father. The judge contrasted the mother's approach. Faced with what the judge regarded as incontrovertible evidence in the videos as to the obvious affection between father and son, she described the mother's attitude as "tonally dismissive, implying that it was all show." The judge was also critical of a letter, which the mother had written to the steering committee of Pro Contact setting out a catalogue of unwarranted complaints, and misquoting Pro Contact's evidence to the court. The judge commented: -

"This is, sadly, yet another example of the mother's distortion of events when she feels beleaguered and under pressure. I feel this letter of complaint is also a reaction against the Pro Contact Centre when it became plain that it was supporting contact (as opposed to supporting the father) against her perception of the situation. "

Finally, the judge found that the father was not in breach of the undertakings he had given to the court in relation to his use of the website.

19. We have taken some time over the judgment relating to the finding of fact hearing on 9 December 2002 for several reasons. Firstly, it is a model of its kind. The parties could have been in no doubt where they stood. In particular, the mother should have been reassured that none of her anxieties about contact was warranted; that J had an excellent relationship with his father; and that contact was manifestly in his best interests. Secondly, it set the agenda for the future. There was a clear and comprehensive set of findings upon which the court and the parties could build. Thirdly, and perhaps most relevantly for this appeal, the judgment should have been the end of the dispute. Both parties should have accepted the judge's findings, reinforced as they were by the objective evidence of a specialist contact centre, Pro Contact. Further litigation should not have been necessary, save in so far as the court's assistance was required in introducing a gradual build-up of contact to the level required to meet J's need for a proper relationship with his father.

Developments after the first fact finding hearing

20. Unfortunately, this is not what happened. In February 2003, the judge introduced a regime of staying contact on two weekends in four. The mother objected to staying contact, but the judge thought J was ready for it. All the reports from Pro Contact, which had observed handovers and the first half hour of contact, were positive. The judge rejected the mother's suggestion that two nights was too long a stay for a child of three. Pro Contact reported that J had been very excited at the prospect of staying contact and content after it. He had moved between his parents with ease.

21. In a statement which she made on 3 March 2003, the mother made the following positive assertion:

"I am now confident that J is happy and settled with the regime of contact and this has settled my fears .... I wish to put the unpleasantness and hostility behind me and to work towards a time when (the father) and I can amicably discuss arrangements for contact and include some flexibility."

Unfortunately, these admirable sentiments were short-lived. A few days after the mother's statement, the maternal grandmother reported J saying something in the bath, which suggested to her that his father might have sexually abused him by digital penetration. The grandmother sought advice from a colleague in the child protection department where she worked and then reported the matter to social services. The matter was reported also to the CAFCASS officer and the mother's solicitor. Contact was suspended.

22. Fortunately, the matter was brought back promptly before the judge on 19 March. She determined to investigate the allegation of sexual abuse, and gave directions for the filing of evidence. She directed that, in the meantime, contact should resume. She refused the father's application for a penal notice to be attached to the order, but gave the father permission to re-apply promptly if there was any breach. The father indicated that he wished to apply for the residence of J, and the judge expanded the remit of the CAFCASS officer to include consideration of that application. The CAFCASS officer was directed to file a report for a hearing on 15 May 2003.

23. On 8 April 2003, J was alleged to have made a remark to his mother to the effect that he had masturbated his father. Thereafter, by agreement, contact resumed at and supervised by Pro Contact. The father agreed to this for his own protection against further allegations.

24. On 15 May 2003, the judge realised that she would have to hold another fact-finding enquiry. Because the matter was becoming increasingly complex and because there was an issue about J's developmental ability to articulate what he was alleged to have said, the judge agreed to the involvement of a well known and highly respected local consultant child psychologist, Mrs. Valerie Mellor, who was able to advise and report at short notice. Thus when the matter came back to her in August 2003, the judge had a report from Mrs. Mellor. In addition, she had reports from J's speech and language therapist Hilary Forest, and from Wendy Cahill of Pro Contact.

25. Mrs Mellor's report, which is in our papers, is another model of clarity and good sense. It is, we think, worth setting out Mrs. Mellor's conclusions and her recommendations in full. They were: -

"My Opinions

1. J presents a happy little boy whose general development is within normal limits, although emotionally he appears to be a little immature. His language development is very poor with regard to his articulation and verbal expression, although his understanding of language appears to be at a three-year level.

2. J enjoys a close relationship with his mother and his older brother and both relationships appear to be important to him.

3. J appears to enjoy an equally good relationship with his father, which also appears to me to be very important to him.

4. Whilst J's mother and brother can understand some more of what J says than people who are not so well acquainted with him, nevertheless, it is in my opinion that some of the things, which he is purported to have said, have been guesses on the part of his mother, rather than clear statements made by J. These guesses or misunderstandings have been made in the context of considerable emotional turmoil and hostility at a time when it is easy for misconceptions to occur.

5. The behaviour problems described by the mother, which she believes result from unsupervised contact, appear to me to be common problems made up by children caught up in an acrimonious dispute regarding contact. This behaviour ceases when parents stop hostilities and become more relaxed about the situation.

Recommendations

1. That contact between (the father) and J continue and for supervision of that contact to be gradually removed.

2. For (the mother) to have some sessions with someone who could help her reduce her level of anxiety regarding contact for her son with his father.

I believe that the mother does believe that something bad has happened to her son at the hands of his father and without help, I think she is going to find it very difficult to relinquish those beliefs.

3. For the time being, Pro Contact are playing an important role in assisting with the handover of J from one parent to another. It is in my view now time that some work was done between (the mother and the father) to assist them in being able to deal with one another more directly. "

26. To her credit, the mother did not contest Mrs Mellor's conclusions, and the judge re-instated the cycle of contact she had ordered in January 2003, which, of course, included staying contact. She put over the father's residence application to 5 and 6 January 2004.

The outcome of the father's application for residence

27. The father does not seek an order for costs in relation to the hearing (culminating in a reserved judgment by HH Judge Kushner on 17 February 2004) at which the judge made a residence order in his favour. He does not do so because he recognises that it was reasonable for the mother to resist his application, and that there can be no legitimate criticism of her doing so. In these circumstances, and given Black J's refusal of permission to the mother to appeal against the residence order in the father's favour, we think it sufficient if we record the judge's assessment in paragraphs 4.13 to 4.17 of the judgment she gave on 17 February 2004, in which, after a careful evaluation of the competing factors, she said: -

"4.11 The question is whether it is right to move J from his main base with his mother and brother to ensure more flexibility of relations in the future.

4.12 I think it is.

4.13 It has taken nearly two years to get this far with a working contact arrangement in a situation where J's relationship with his father required that he should see as much of him as possible. Even now there is a reluctance on the part of (the mother) to cope with any flexibility, increase, negotiation or even basic communication.

4.14 Luckily so far, this has not impinged on J's long-term welfare. His young age, robust personality and affection for his father has meant that he has resumed contact after various suspensions and variations with enthusiasm and gusto. If his relationship with his father had been less good or if he had been a different type of child the prospects of successful contact may have been damaged or even destroyed. There is the danger, however, that there remains some legacy from the allegations made ostensibly on his behalf.

4.15 However, I cannot expect this apparent imperviousness to continue, as J gets older and more aware of the difficulties between his parents. He is therefore better placed, all things being equal, if he lives in the environment most suited to promote a good, relaxed and healthy relationship with the other parent.

4.16 From this point of view, I think that the father's home is better equipped to provide a healthier emotional atmosphere.

4.17 I think that as long as the mother feels as though she is in the position of power as decision-maker, there will continue to be problems between the parties with J in the middle. The very best one can expect is that the mother will comply with any order to the letter, with no flexibility or accommodation. At worst, once the court process has come to an end, there will be some pretext whereby contact is inconvenient or apparently against J's interests."

28. After further consideration of A's position, the judge contemplated the making of a joint residence order in relation to J, but decided against it: -

"I have considered whether the answer to the problem might be in granting a joint residence order to equalise the position of power between the parents. I agree with Mr Holmes (the CAFCASS Reporting Officer), however, that for this couple, which has difficulty in communicating even over eye drops, this will only be a recipe for disaster. Mr Holmes was of the view that if the mother had to deal with the "flip side," namely as the parent with the contact rather than the residence order, she may become more flexible, although that may be a bit optimistic.""

Comments on Judge Kushner's management of the case

29. In our judgment, Judge Kushner's management of this difficult case is to be highly commended. From the moment it first came before her on 4 December 2002, she rightly reserved it to herself and took a firm procedural grip of it. She made swift and impeccable findings of fact, and when those did not have the desired effect, responded immaculately by an equally swift and effective investigation of the sexual abuse allegations, in relation to which she appropriately engaged expert assistance. Handled differently, this case could well have spiralled into a wholly intractable dispute through a combination of ill feeling, frustration, delay and an absence of proper case management. Instead, effective case management and firm judicial control have produced a clear resolution, and one which is plainly in the interests of J. We can say that with some confidence, because we were told at the hearing of this appeal that, by agreement, the parents have arrived at what is in broad terms a 60:40 split of J's time between them, with which, despite niggles as to the detail, both are broadly content. The father in particular was appreciative of the fact that there was judicial continuity. The mother had found Mrs. Mellor' intervention particularly helpful.

30. The case, accordingly, is in our view a paradigm example of how a difficult contact dispute should be handled.

The costs issue

31. Against this background it is in one sense unfortunate that we have to resolve an outstanding issue of costs. It is, however, an issue of considerable importance to both parties, and has implications, we think, beyond the narrow ambit of the instant case.

32. Before the judge, the father restricted his application for costs to three areas. These were recorded by the judge as follows: -

"3.1 (a) The fact-finding hearing in December 2002 relating to assault and domestic violence - approximately £15,000;

(b) The listed fact-finding hearing in May 2003 relating to the allegations of sexual abuse, adjourned to instruct Mrs Mellor - approximately £2,500;

(c) The final listing of the fact-finding hearing in August 2003 relating to allegations of sexual abuse, compromised with the assistance of Mrs Mellor on the basis that the allegations were without foundation.

3.2 The father's applications for costs are restricted to hearings where he argues the mother produced false evidence. He does not pursue costs for hearings where there was proper ventilation as to what was in J's best interests. This is even though he maintains (the mother's) approach to J's welfare through her attitude to contact has been unreasonable in general"

33. The total, which the father sought, amounted on his assessment to £20,000. His overall costs, he told us, including those relating to the proceedings for ancillary relief, amounted to a total of £110,000.

34. The proceedings for ancillary relief between the parties are relevant. The father lives with J in the former matrimonial home. The outcome of the financial proceedings was that the father was ordered to pay to the mother a lump sum of £60,000, which he has raised by way of further mortgage against the property. He was also ordered to pay periodical payments to the mother in the sum of £1,100 per month whilst the mother completed her studies at college, although it is open to the mother to apply to the court to extend the term if she does not achieve gainful employment. The judge was told that the lump sum was being held in an interest-bearing account pending her decisions as to costs.

35. The father told us, and we do not think this to be in issue, that it was recognised at the hearing of the proceedings for ancillary relief that the sum of £60,000 would not be sufficient to enable the mother to acquire alternative accommodation for herself and A. The mother is currently living in rented accommodation. There is, therefore, no doubt that the mother has the funds to meet the costs which the father seeks, although she told us (and again this appeared to be common ground) that her costs for the time she was in receipt of public funding amounted to £18,000 (over which the Legal Services Commission had a statutory charge as property recovered or preserved in the proceedings). Furthermore, she had to repay £5,000 in relation to state benefits, which had been inappropriately paid to her. Thus, if she had to pay the father's costs of 20,000, she would be left with only £17,000 of the £60,000 lump sum.

The principles relating to costs in family proceedings relating to children

36. The principles, which fall to be applied, are not, we think, in dispute. The judge summarised them succinctly in the following way: -

"2.1 The Civil Procedure Rules apply. Under normal circumstances, according to rule 44.3(2) (a), the general rule is that costs should follow the event, although the court can make a different order. (Rule 44.3(2) (b))

2.2 However, this general rule does not apply to family proceedings. (Family Proceedings (Miscellaneous Amendments) Rules 1999)

2.3 It is suggested that even in family proceedings, the general rule is probably the starting point but can more easily be displaced. (Gojkovic v Gojkovic (No 2) [1992] Fam 40)

2.4 In cases involving children in particular, costs awarded against one parent or another are exceptional since the court is anxious to avoid the situation where a parent may feel "punished" by the other parent which will reduce co-operation between them. This will only impinge ultimately on the welfare of the child or the children concerned. (London Borough of Sutton v Davis (Costs) (No2) [1994] 2 FLR569; Re: M (Local Authority's Costs) [1995] 1 FLR 533)

2.5 The conduct of the parties is in reality the major consideration when deciding whether or not an exceptional order for costs should be made. It should only be made if the penalised party has been unreasonable in his or her conduct. Moreover the "unreasonableness" must relate to the conduct of the litigation rather than the welfare of the child. (R v R (Costs: child case) [1997] 2 FLR 95)

2.6 One has to be very careful in this distinction when, as in the case of (the mother), the apparent unreasonableness is as a result of the personality of the relevant party. In such circumstances, there is often an overlap of that party's conduct of the litigation and the conduct relating to the welfare of the child.

2.7 At the beginning of my involvement (the father) was applying for contact in relation to A as well as J. His welfare has also been a concern from time to time throughout. However, the costs in dispute have been incurred in relation to J's welfare alone."

37. In relation to the fact-finding hearing between 9 and 13 December 2002, the father argued that there had been a hearing on 31 October 2002 before HH Judge Allweis, the Designated Family Judge for Greater Manchester at which the parents had reached an agreement. All the matters subsequently thrashed out at the finding of fact hearing in December were, he submitted, live in October, but were not pursued. Nothing, he argued, had changed between October and December. The father did not dispute the mother's entitlement from her perspective to initiate the application in October. What was unreasonable was her continuation of the litigation beyond that point, which had been unnecessary and only due to her obdurate opposition to contact. The relevant issues pursued in December had been resolved in the father's favour. The father had been obliged to litigate in December in order to restore contact, and the mother's pursuit of the allegations against him had been unreasonable.

38. The mother argued that her stance had been dictated by her personality and her reaction to feeling vulnerable. That vulnerability had been exacerbated by the father's conduct. In these circumstances she should not be penalised with a finding that her conduct had been reprehensible or beyond the band of what could be considered reasonable. Alternatively, if she had been unreasonable the court should draw a distinction between somebody who viewed events from a distorted perspective as opposed to one who is being wilfully unreasonable or behaving reprehensively. She also pointed to all the undesirable features of costs orders being made against a parent identified in the authorities.

39. The judge came to the conclusion that although the finding of fact hearing in December 2002 had been brought about at her insistence and for the reasons we have recorded, it remained the position that there had been a perfectly proper compromise before Judge Allweis in October 2002, and that nothing had changed in the meantime. There had, accordingly, been no good reason for the breakdown in contact and the fact-finding hearing should not have been necessary. The judge was thus satisfied that the mother had behaved unreasonably, and that her unreasonableness was in relation to the conduct of the litigation rather than her approach to the child. She accordingly awarded the father his costs of the December 2002 finding or fact hearing.

Costs in relation to the hearings in May and August 2003

40. The judge dealt with these in the following way: -

"3.8 These two hearings were part of the same process, namely the fact-finding in relation to the allegations of sexual abuse.

The father argues that that the allegations were ill founded, but that is not all. He submits that it should have been obvious to the mother that he had not abused J. However, in her desire to frustrate contact she was only too willing to believe the otherwise innocent comments of her son. It was all part of her inability to appreciate that J's welfare demands that he see his father.

3.9 There is no doubt in my mind that the mother was unreasonable in her easy acceptance of the possibility that the father had abused J. Moreover, there were further allegations and a further suspension of contract by (the mother) even after I had reinstated it after the first allegations had emerged.

3.10 I cannot say that this was unrelated to J's welfare and was solely linked to the conduct of the litigation. It would be different if I was satisfied that she did not believe the allegations or that she had completely manufactured them. However, this is not the case.

3.11 Therefore in this instance I have to decide the issue of costs where the unreasonableness relates both to the welfare of the child and to the conduct of the litigation.

3.12 I have decided in such instance to approach this in a fairly straightforward manner and ask myself what appears fair in all the circumstances.

3.13 The proceedings as a whole show a general crescendo of allegations against the father culminating finally, and almost inevitably, in the context of this case, in allegations of sexual abuse. Despite aspects of the mother's personality, which allowed these suspicions to take hold, I feel it would be an affront to justice to expect the father to pay for the costs of defending himself against these most serious accusations.

3.14 It is all very well for the mother to maintain that she didn't know what to do and that she was only acting on what J had said. I am afraid that is the regular refrain when false allegations are raised.

3.15 When one places this in the context of the other difficulties that have been placed in the way of contact throughout, I feel that fairness demands the mother to pay the father's costs of those two hearings."

41. The judge then decided that a summary assessment was inappropriate and referred the issue to the costs judge for detailed assessment. She awarded the father the costs of the application for costs. In our view, if the judge was right to make costs orders against the mother in relation to the three hearings in December 2002, May and August 2003, it follows that she was entitled to make an order that the mother pay the costs of the application for cost itself, decided by her in June 2004

The argument for the mother on the appeal

42. The grounds of appeal contained in the appellant's notice read as follows: -

"It is unusual to order costs in children cases. The debate is surrounding the future of a child. The child is the winner and the only winner. Those with a proper interest in the child should not be discouraged in participating in a debate with an order of costs against them. In B(M) v B(R) [1968] 1 WLR 1182 the court suggested that it would have been wrong to make an order for costs because it would exacerbate the feelings between the parents to the ultimate detriment of the child. Where proceedings are between parents, both of whom are acting bona fide in the interests of the child, it is not uncommon to make no order as to the costs of the proceedings. Each party should be responsible for there own legal fees as each party made their own decisions on what to spend and use as representation."

43. In her skeleton argument, the mother refers back to the arguments she addressed to the judge. She cited the judgment of Butler-Sloss LJ in Gojkovic v Gojkivic and another (No 2) [1992] Fam 40 at 57C, stressing the unusual nature of an order for costs in children's cases and the spectre of orders for costs discouraging those with a proper interest in the child participating in the debate. She also relied once again on B(M) v B(R ) [1968] 1 WLR 1182 at 1185 where the point is made that an order for costs would exacerbate feelings between the parents to the ultimate detriment of the child, as well as Re G (Official Solicitor's Costs) (1982) 3 FLR 340 at 345B, where Ormrod LJ repeated the well established proposition that where the proceedings are between parents, both of whom are acting bona fide in the interests of the child, it was not uncommon to make no order as to the costs of the proceedings.

44. The mother also made the point that the father is in a much stronger financial position that she is. He has retained the former matrimonial home, which is increasing in value, whereas she has only a small amount of capital patently insufficient to re-house herself and A. The father has an income of £70,000 per annum, and was able to pay for his own legal fees. He had, moreover, gone to expensive solicitors and counsel.

45. Finally, the mother relied on the judgment of Wilson J in London Borough of Sutton v Davis (No 2) to which reference has already been made; to D v D (Shared Residence Order) [2001] 1 FLR 495 (in which a father agreed not to enforce an order for costs in his favour) and M v H (Costs: Residence Proceedings) [2000] 1 FLR 394, in which a mother was awarded 75% of her costs against the father in relation to an application for residence which the judge found should not have been made, and in which the father should certainly should not have persisted.

Discussion and Analysis

46. Despite the extensive citation of authority, we think the principles governing the award of costs in children's cases are well established, and more than adequately summarised by the judge in the extract from her judgment, which we have set out at paragraph 36 above.

47. In giving permission to appeal on the costs issue, Black J said: -

"28. It is a different question with regard to the costs issue. It is not normally expected that a costs order will be made in children proceedings. Such orders are only made in exceptional circumstances, although of course from time to time they are made. They can be made, amongst other situations, where a party has been unreasonable in their conduct of the litigation over their child. In this case, the judge identified in the costs judgment that the mother's personality gave rise to what the judge classed as unreasonableness in her approach to the litigation, rather than any, as I might put it rather colloquially, bloody-mindedness on the part of the mother. In the February 2004 judgment she had also recorded the advice of Mrs Mellor that the mother should have sessions with someone who would help her to reduce her level of anxiety. I recall, as I have already mentioned earlier in this judgment, that Mrs Mellor had said that the mother does believe that something bad would happen to her son at the hands of his father, and that she would need help to relinquish those beliefs. At paragraph 3.10 of the costs judgment there is the judge's acceptance that the mother did believe the allegations and had not completely manufactured them, and that in part they related to the mother's concern about J's welfare of the possibility that J had been abused by his father.

29. With those findings with regard to the mother's personality, her belief in what she thought had happened to J, and the fact that her bringing of the proceedings was, at least in part, related to her concern for his welfare, it seems to me that there is a reasonable prospect of success in appealing on the basis that the costs order was not a correct exercise of the judge's discretion, and that by relying on what was (as the judge put it) "fair in all circumstances" as her test, at least for part of that decision, the judge went wrong."

48. In our judgment, the two questions which arise are (1) was the judge right in her assessment that the mother's conduct in relation to the litigation was unreasonable? (2) If the answer to (1) is "yes" was it a proper exercise of her discretion in all the circumstances of the case, and bearing in mind the exceptional nature of costs orders, to make orders for costs against her?

49. We have come to the conclusion that the judge's exercise of discretion on the facts of this case cannot properly be impugned, and that the orders for costs which she made must stand.

50. We recognise that irrational behaviour is commonplace in complex contact disputes, and that such behaviour may well be exacerbated by the personality of the individual parent. There is, however, in our judgment, a limit to which allowance can be made for a parent who deliberately and unreasonably obstructs contact by the other parent in circumstances where, on any objective analysis, contact is in the interests of the child and should take place. Of course there is a whole range of cases in which opposition to contact is reasonable. The classic example is the parent who has been traumatised by domestic violence, or where the parent seeking contact has been violent to the child. Equally, we accept, there are many cases in which there is a genuine dispute over the amount of contact, the suitability of holidays and overnight stays and so on.

51. It is for this reason that the judge's findings of fact are so important. Where a judge, as here, carefully investigates the disputed areas of fact which have given rise to a parent's objections to contact, and where the judge, as here, has found in terms that the child enjoys a good relationship with the non-resident parent; that there is no reason for the resident parent to have any concerns; and that there is no reason why contact should not take place, a reasonable parent, even if still anxious, has no proper grounds for failing to implement the order. If, in these circumstances, the resident parent unreasonably fails to implement the order or an agreement as to contact, and if the matter has to return to court, it will be open to the court to find that that parent is acting unreasonably.

52. In the instant case, the parties had reached an agreement in October 2002. There was manifestly no reason why contact should not take place in accordance with that agreement. The mother resiled from it for no good reason. She was, at the time, legally represented and plainly had access to good advice. The judge investigated the matter carefully and found that there was no good reason for her change of mind. In our judgment she cannot in these circumstances rely on her own irrational anxieties to bring her conduct within the reasonable band. Her conduct was unreasonable, and it led to unnecessary litigation.

53. The same, in our judgment, applies to the allegations of sexual abuse. The mother had only days before expressed her wish to move forward. Her misinterpretation of what J may or may not have said should not have led to the suspension of contact and the further intervention of the court. It is patently clear that J had not been sexually abused by his father, and the judge found that the mother was unreasonable "in her easy acceptance of the possibility that the father had abused J". That was a finding, in our judgment, which the judge was entitled to make. The mother and the maternal grandmother had misinterpreted innocent remarks made by J and given them a sinister interpretation that was unreasonable. The fact that the mother made and persisted in the allegations to a hearing may well in part reflect her anxious personality, but does not make it reasonable for her to have done so.

54. In our judgment, the father was right to restrict his claim to the three hearings he identified. His approach, in our view, illustrates neatly the divide between legitimate litigation over reasonable disagreements, and irrational conduct with prolongs unnecessary litigation.

55. Ultimately, the judge was exercising a judicial discretion. Her management of the case had been impeccable. In our judgment she was entitled to make the orders for costs she did, and right not to assess them summarily. Quantum is ultimately a matter of assessment for the costs judge. We also do not think that, having properly set out the principles to be applied, she can be criticised for introducing in that context the concept of fairness in all the circumstances, or for stating that it would be "an affront to justice to expect the father to pay for the costs of defending himself" against the wholly unwarranted allegations of sexual abuse which, on the judge's analysis, should never have been brought. The appeal must accordingly be dismissed.

56. We do not think that the orders for costs which we have upheld in the instant case are either likely to or should deter a resident parent from advancing a reasonable opposition to contact, which is genuinely based on a proper perception of the child's interests. But those who unreasonably frustrate contact need to be aware that the court has the power to make costs orders in appropriate cases, and that the consequences of such unreasonable behaviour may well be an order for costs made against the resident parent who has behaved unreasonably.